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How to Master the Car Key Conversation

Assisted living or memory care is on the horizon, and your loved one’s driving has become a financial liability and a safety issue. You need those keys.

I’m going to show you how to understand why this issue triggers so much resistance, and then we’re going to talk about the communication strategies you’ll use to overcome that resistance with compassion.

Mastering the Car Key Conversation

elumenEd’s course, Mastering the Car Key Conversation, shows you how to get to the other side of this watershed moment. When you learn to leverage the communication and negotiation skills in this program, you’ll have an advantage that very few enjoy.

Most family members go into this conversation feeling afraid and unsure. They have an objective, but no plan on how to get there. Things get heated and everything falls apart.

Because of this, the problem grows exponentially: their loved one still has the keys, they are now more determined than ever to drive, and the caregiver is on the defensive.

It doesn’t have to be like that. When you plan ahead with someone who has been there, you can rewrite the script and have it all: the keys, the relationship, and dignity for the person you love.

Change the Game:

Winging it and hoping for the best doesn’t work. Making it up as you go is disastrous.

Instead, I’m going to give you the things to say, show you the leverage you hold, and even the “dirty tricks” you can use when all else fails.

Having good communication with a loved one honestly isn’t that hard. When you reframe your thinking and speaking in some simple ways and know what to expect, it can be so much easier than you anticipate.

Let me break down what you’re going to master in this course.

Mastering the Car Key Conversation

In Part One, you’re going to learn the context for their attachment to driving. Everything shifts when you understand their “why.” You’re already ahead of the game when you take the time to do this.

Maybe you’re doubting yourself, wondering if you’re overreacting or overthinking. Are other people disagreeing with your assessment? In Part Two, you learn specific criteria that will help you make an informed decision. Most importantly, however, this section will give you the courage of your convictions.

Part Three covers the actual talk. Learn the best negotiation strategies, how to make the conversation a two-way street, what leverage you possess, and what to do if it all goes wrong. You know that worst case scenario you’re worried about? How would you like to have a plan for that?

Finally, Part Four finishes up with some self-care techniques. This may be the toughest conversation you have with your loved one, and you deserve some time to recover afterwards.

Learn from My Mistakes: I Did

This training is the product of my reflections on taking the keys from my own mom. I frankly botched it. When the crisis came, I wasn’t prepared. I fractured our relationship and her dignity, and it took a long time to repair both of those. This training is what I wish had been available for me before I talked to her, but nothing like it has existed until now.

Instead of chaos, create compassion. Instead of discord, find shared goals. That’s the hope this simple course offers.

$29 to Get the Keys and Keep the Relationship

You really can have the keys, the relationship, and peace of mind in knowing that your loved one – and the other people on the road – are safe.

If you’ve got a question, email me at [email protected]

Or, if you’re ready to jump in, click the button and sign up for Mastering the Car Key Conversation.

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